What if I had stuck to my normal routine. What if I had taken a different route to go to school. What if I had trained a bit harder. What if I studied more for that exam. What if aliens came down and landed on Earth. What if the moon exploded and unicorns roamed the Earth like humans.
We all have the tendency to "what if" ourselves into oblivion. Questioning our choices, ideas, or actions. Why do we do this? Well, we were hoping for a different outcome. We were hoping by a simple action on our behalf, that things would be different. Yet, here we are. With everything out of our control. What is done is done. So why torture ourselves with the pain of the unknown? Often times, when feeling out of control we think of these things. Marinating in these negative thoughts and comments about how we chose to do things. Do not get me wrong. Self-reflection is the key to all success however, sometimes enough is enough. My roommate, Mandy, said to me, "control the controllable". Not always are we able to change things, we wish we're different. We cannot wish more on things we cannot control. We cannot go to the past to refurbish what once was. It simply is, now. Think of these moments as opportunities for growth. An opportunity for us to take a situation that is usually undesirable and make it better. Pushing forward even when it feels the hardest. Opening our thoughts to the present rather than looking at the past. Because the best standard for change, is not letting your past self define who you are today. Things happen, events that are set-backs and push-forwards, but why sit somewhere that time has already moved away from you? Whatever decision you made, is a reflection on your thought process then, not now. Prosperity is key, choose prosperity, always. Take life by the horns, and run with it, because what if things are brighter just a few steps away? With love, Bre
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We have all heard and been told that "it is what it is". A statement that puts our goals out of reach because it is as if we have no control. While yes, sometimes "it is what it is". Contrary, it doesn't always have to be what it is.
To dive deeper... There are moments and challenges in life that are simply out of our hands. Whether the result had already come about or the actions are those of others, there are things we cannot control. However, it doesn't always have to be what it is. There are many times we dismiss our capabilities to submit to our subconscious telling us "it is what it is". We have an endless plethora of skills and traits that regardless of the predicted outcome, we can change. Let's say we got fired from a job. In that exact moment, it is what it is. There is nothing you will be able to do that will change this outcome for it has already passed. But, is this supposed to deter you from future opportunities that may come your way? Is this going to stop you from driving forward even with the multitude of roadblocks? Well, it can't. We lose out on so many opportunities by allowing things to happen TO us rather than FOR us. Viewing things as concrete and not an opportunity to grow only limits our capabilities. You are absolutely capable of all you hope and dream to do. You were put on this Earth and given each seed of creativity and hope to capitalize on. You wouldn't have thought it if you didn't think it was in your realm of things you could accomplish. So yes, I understand sometimes it is what it is, but does it always have to be what it is? That is for you to determine. With love, Bre |
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